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Greetings from the shores of, apparently, Lake America. I feel like that sums up the state of the world at the moment. I hope you all are managing well.

Things have been here. You know, they've been. We've had things. Mum and I both had quite a bad cold. My brother's cat's tail had to be partially amputated (he's fine). My mum fell (she is also fine). There have been many thunderstorms that make small Scottish Terriers heartbreakingly terrified.

But you know, things are also okay, too. We carry on. My dad is doing a bit better. He's been very tired and kind of apathetic lately, but we've been force feeding him vitamins and it seems to be helping. I've been doing some crafting again. I've been drawing and fairly happy with results. I'm still writing my heart out, but my neurodivergent brain keeps getting distracted by shinier story ideas that the 'establishing the characters' one. Because that's hard, so therefore not as fun. But I am having fun. I just don't know if I'll ever finish up the first story people would need to understand all the rest of them. The Blue Jays have been playing somewhat better baseball. Not sure we're going to make the playoffs, but...there's always a chance. If people would just stop getting hurt! There are only so many pitchers on the planet, we're going to run out of them eventually!

In general, I'm starting to get a hold of myself again. I've been in burnout for a while, I think, and I've been working hard to understand myself and figure out what I need. I'm pretty sure I have some perimenopause shit going on, too. I've done a burnout meditation challenge and a hormonal meditation challenge, and both of those helped. I feel calmer. I'm trying to let things go that I can't control and focus on getting the energy and wherewithal to feel healthy enough to start fix them in time. Mum and I have also swapped duties. I'm making supper and she's cleaning the kitchen, and both of us are much happier with the arrangement. I've been enjoying looking up recipes and trying things out.

So, yeah, all is copacetic here. I wish you all the best where you are. I hope you are finding some small joys. I will check in again soon.

Books!

Jul. 4th, 2026 07:38 am
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Hello, all! Happy belated Canada Day and actual July 4th, if you are celebratory of either. Hope the heat wave isn't getting you down (spoiler: it is getting me down).

Pax remains healthy and very happy here. The stress has ebbed, though we've still have had some fun adventures in General Existence, which are never ending.

As it is half way through the year, I thought I'd do a little book round-up. I've been logging my reading on GoodReads for the last couple of years, and I got a Kobo for Christmas last year, so I've been able to borrow e-books from our library, and that has been awesome! Free books for the win!

I'll do a little natter for each of them, and give my rating. Forewarned: I am very generous with ratings. If I had good time reading, it's 5/5 stars. It takes a lot for me to rate low, because I can usually find something good about it. If you want any info on Content Warnings for any of them, let me know and I'll try to remember what I can about them. I'm a very sensitive person, so if I've read it, it's probably pretty happy, but everyone has different concerns, so I can answer anything specific you're worried about.

Books!

That's a Great Story, I'd Love to Tell You
Elyse Myers
This is non-fiction, a memoir from influencer Elyse Myers, who is someone I follow on socials. She has ADHD/Autism and OCD, and is hilarious and tells amazing stories, and is delightful all around. The book is a series of essays/poems/short stories, not a straight biography, but it's super moving and lovely. May not be written in a way everyone would like, but as a person suffering from a lot, if not all, the same mental health issues, it hit hard.
Spice: N/A
Overall Rating: 5/5

Good Spirits
B.K Borison
This one is about a Ghost of Christmas Past assigned to haunt a woman, and them falling in love. Borison always does a good job of romance mixed with some heavier issues, and this one is sweet and magical and romantic, and I did not see where it was going. I hope there's more in this universe, because she set up a really fun one with a lot of great concepts.
Spice: Fanfic-like smut scenes, pretty graphically described
Overall Rating: 5/5

Last Duke Standing (Royal Match 1)
Julia London
London is one of my favourite historical romance authors, and this one was fun. The first book of hers I read was the fourth one in this series that I picked up in a thrift store, so it was nice to go back to the beginning. It's about a Princess/Future Queen of a fictional country in Victorian times, sent to England to find a husband, with an enemies to lover trope plot. Not one of my favourites by London, and I liked the fourth book more, but it was a nice read.
Spice: Sexy scenes, not super graphic
Overall Rating: 4/5

A Kiss At Midnight (Fairy Tales 1)
Eloisa James
A retelling of Cinderella set in a vague AU late 1700's England. Interesting set up to the story, the Cinderella stand-in having to pretend to be her step-sister to go to the ball and get approval to marry her(the step-sister's) fiancé from the prince. Very much ruined by the Prince written as an asshole, no lead up to why he wants the Cinderella stand in and some consent that felt very dubious. I wish she made better use of the plot and world set up, because she did a great job of that, but I was more interested in the side characters than the actual romance. I wanted her to marry someone else, that was how much the prince didn't interest me.
Spice: Smutty scenes, not that graphic, but a lot of them
Overall Rating: 3/5

A Garden Folly (Country House Party 1)
Candice Hern
This is another one that started out great, like so cute and fun and sweet, and then I was fuming by the end of it. It's about a pair of impoverished sisters who are invited to a house party by the mother of a duke, and go with the intent of finding rich husbands. The duke is an avid garden enthusiast and one of the sisters mistakes him for the gardener, and he decides to roll with it, because he's sick of women after him for his title and doesn't want anyone to know he's on the grounds during the party. It's a cute set-up, but the hero turns toxic very fast. I was so disappointed considering how much I enjoyed the beginning.
Spice: Very mild.
Overall Rating: 2.5/5

Love is Ale You Need (Brews & Flings 1)
Gia Stevens
This one was free in the Kobo store and I picked it up because it looked fun, and it was. It's a self-described accidental pregnancy romantic comedy, and though it advertised itself as friends to lovers, I wouldn't classify the characters as friends before they get together. It was cute and I enjoyed it, but there were some aspects that felt unnecessary, and it was definitely that fanfic type trope of problems arising and resolving so fast, there didn't seem a point to them in the first place. For a free book, I had a fun time with it, not sure how I'd feel if I'd paid for it. It could have used a little more editing to streamline the story.
Spice: Very spicy, lots of sex scenes
Overall Rating: 3/5

A Sinister Revenge (Veronica Speedwell 8)
Deanna Raybourn
I mentioned the Veronica Speedwell books in my last natter and they remain some of my faves. This one was one of the better ones, I liked setting and characters and mystery more than some of the others. It involves Veronica going to Lyme-Regis with her business partner/lover Stoker to help his (slightly estranged and very eccentric) family with a problem. It talks about Victorian palaeontology and is well paced and interesting, with some good character moments.
Spice: Virtually none, Veronica's narration always neatly bypasses any sex stuff.
Overall Rating: 5/5

Nicola and the Viscount
Meg Cabot
This one's aimed at teens, but I was a big Princess Diaries fan, so I read it for fun, and it was fun. It's about an orphan who goes to stay with a friend from her finishing school and her adventures in courtship. I'm not sure how historically accurate it is, but it was cute. I would have loved it as a teen.
Spice: None, just kissing
Overall Rating:3/5

Potent Pleasures (Pleasures 1)
Eloisa James
I gave James another try, but this one was worse than A Kiss at Midnight. So much worse, I didn't make it past the first chapter, when there was such dubious consent I didn't not want these characters to end up together and I knew they would. A lot of historical romances have dubious consent to work around the whole sex before marriage being taboo thing, but has to be written well. It has to feel like the barrier for the woman is solely her sense of propriety/the rules of society (The "Oh No, We Mustn't" thing). Julia Quinn and Julia London do this very well, London especially, but this was written in way that felt uncomfortable to me.
Spice: DNF
Overall Rating:DNF

Title Mr Darcy Takes A Wife (Darcy & Elizabeth 1)
Linda Berdoll
A continuation of Pride & Prejudice. I've read a few different types of these now, Austen fanfic, and most of them are so-so. This one I didn't finish. She mastered the writing style, but to such an extent I had trouble following the story. There were words I didn't know used often it got annoying and the prose was hard to get through. I would have stuck it out, but I didn't care for the plot enough to try. I don't care what George Wickham is doing, even if it is plotting revenge. Might be someone's cup of tea, but not mine.
Spice: DNF
Overall Rating:DNF

Game Changer (Game Changers 1)
Rachel Reid
I haven't seen Heated Rivalry, and probably won't because I just can't seem to watch anything lately, but my Insta feed was full of clips and I thought I'd check the books out. This is Scott and Kip's story. It's very fanfic-esque. There's a lot of sex and not a lot else. I would have liked less sex and more else. I liked the characters and the dilemma, but they could have been fleshed out a little more. I would have liked to know more about each of them. Still strangely compelling, though, I was invested in reading it.
Spice: Blatant smut.
Overall Rating: 3/5

Heated Rivalry (Game Changers 2)
Rachel Reid
My hold at the library very conveniently came up the day I finished Game Changer, so I carried on with the series. This is night and day improvement on the first book. Still lots of sex, but Shane and Ilya felt more like real characters with real lives. I would have liked a bit more of Shane's backstory, but I enjoyed it a lot, and I plan to carry on with the series.
Spice: Still blatant smut
Overall Rating: 5/5

Love in Lowercase
Francesc Miralles
This one is a weird one. It's about a reclusive man in Spain who teaches German literature and one day finds a cat who sets off a series of events that allows him to get more involved in the world around him. It's translated from Spanish, and I could tell. Not because it didn't make sense, but it did feel like I was not quite getting the essence of the original. It's very esoteric, each chapter is only a few pages, like a series of very short stories. It's full of eccentric characters, but there's not a plot per se. I still liked it.
Spice: None
Overall Rating: 4/5

A Night to Surrender (Spindle Cove 1)
Tessa Dare
This one fell right into my Goldilocks zone for stories, silly with some serious elements to it. It's about a woman who leads society in a Spindle Cove, a refuge for young women who are not desirable for marriage for varying reasons, and a soldier who has to form a militia in the town, which has been overrun by the women. It's enemies to lovers and funny and cute, and I liked both the main characters and their motivations. I'm definitely going to read the others in the series.
Spice: Sex scenes, relatively graphic.
Overall Rating: 5/5


The Secret Diaries of Miss Miranda Cheever (Bevelstoke 1)
Julia Quinn
Not one of my favourite's by Quinn, which is weird, because I loved the third one in this series (which I read first). It's a 'in love with my best friend's brother' trope book, but with an age gap that felt uncomfortable at times. Quinn's heroes are always assholes with justifiable reasons to be, like, every single one I've read so far meets that criteria. This one didn't hit quite right for me, even though I understood his behaviour. Chemistry between the main characters didn't do it for me. Quinn also does a thing in some of her books where the POV switches constantly between the two characters, without break in the action, and it can feel disorienting to suddenly find yourself in someone's else's head mid page without warning.
Spice: Standard sex scenes.
Overall Rating: 3/5

The Footman is an Earl (Lords in Disguise 1)
Valerie Bowman
This was another free one on Kobo. The title makes the premise fairly clear, it's about an earl who pretends to be a footman at a house party of one his friends as part of a bet and in order to scope out society ladies without them fawning of over his title. The heroine is someone who hates him from afar, but doesn't know who he is when she meets him as the footman, and much chaos ensures. I enjoyed it. I liked both the main characters and it was a fun read. The only thing I'll say is that the the hero could have used a bit more backstory. It almost felt I should have known it from another book, even though this is the first one in the series. One of the other characters relays it late in the story almost like a reminder you should know about, and I would have liked it worked in earlier.
Spice: A couple of sexy scenes, only one graphically described.
Overall Rating: 4/5

Red, White, & Royal Blue
Casey McQuiston
I have also not seen the movie for this, because I do not watch things, but the book is awesome! I can see why the movie did well if it follows it. I really loved this one. McQuiston's style of writing is how I would like mine to be, really in the moment, stream of consciousness that puts you right there with the character. For those who don't know, it's about the American president's son falling for a prince of England, and it's sweet and vaguely heartbreaking and uplifting and hopeful, and I really loved it. I wish Henry was a bit more well developed, or we saw him more. We're in Alex's head the whole time, and I just would have liked to hear more from Henry about what was going on, not just through the emails they exchange, but in person as well. Also it was LONG. I barely got it read in the two weeks I had it, and I was reading even longer at a time than usual because I was enjoying it so much. I don't think it needed anything cut out, if anything, as I said, I would have liked more from Henry, but it was a long read for what is a essentially a New Adult romance novel.
Spice: Mostly glossed over.
Overall Rating: 5/5



Book recs are welcome. I enjoy light hearted romances mostly, and do not enjoy dark or scary things, but all recs will be duly considered.

Have a lovely day!
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Well, I speak to you today, as of yesterday, a woman of the elderly age of 40 whole years old. Which probably would have caused me some existential dread, had Pax not decided to scare all us shitless here.

CW: sick dogs, surgery

I mentioned in my last post that Pax had been vomiting on and off and we'd taken him to the vet, and he'd seemed to be better. Unfortunately, he resumed vomiting once more, again in a very strange pattern of sometimes dry retching, sometimes throwing up food, sometimes just bile, sometimes regurgitating. We tried rearranging his food schedule, not giving him his chew, trying different treats, but it did not matter. It was random, we couldn't figure it out. Then, one morning, he regurgitated his entire breakfast and chew shortly after eating them, and I decided it was time to go back to the vet. They gave me an appointment for the next day, but when I let him out a few minutes later, I discovered the biggest mushroom I have ever seen in his pen. I swear it sprung up fast, because I did not even notice it before. But I know wild mushrooms and dogs are not a good combination, so I pulled it out and saw what looked like a bite out of it. I couldn't say it was a Pax bite, but he regurgitated again, and I went, 'fuck it, we're going to the vet today'.

We had to go to the emergency vet, and they could not have been nicer there. They didn't seem to care about the mushroom, but they were concerned by the vomiting and his stomach hurting on palpation. They suggested x-rays and bloodwork and putting an IV in to hydrate him, which we agreed to. We went home and came back and got the results, and she started with the bloodwork. It was a little hinky, his liver enzymes up (we already knew his liver enzymes were high from his mouth surgery a couple of years ago, so that wasn't crazy alarming) and showing mild pancreatitis. Puzzle had pancreatitis back in the day and I thought 'great, we can treat that'. Then she brought out the x-rays and it showed a 3.3 cm mass in his stomach near his duodenum.

She said it could be a foreign body like a toy or it could be a tumour, and she couldn't tell from the x-ray alone. Either way, he needed it removed. Our area doesn't have an endoscopy, which I was surprised by. Basically our only option was to open up his stomach and see what was there. If it was a foreign body, she'd remove it, if it was a tumour, we'd have to decide what we wanted to do. Mum and I agreed that if it was cancer, we'd rather end things there, just not wake him up from the surgery. He's so happy and busy and we'd rather him go out peacefully than suffer through treatment or just be on a kind of time bomb situation.

She suggested that she take more x-rays later in the day to see if it had moved at all, which would make it more likely to be a foreign body. So we left him there until about 10:30 that night and came back for him. The x-rays were inconclusive, but the person who read them this time seemed more confident of a foreign body, which was slightly reassuring.

Please insert all members of the family being incredibly stressed and upset throughout all of this. I won't dwell on it, but I have never been so scared in my life, and taking him back the next day for the surgery was the hardest thing I have ever done. Mum, who has seen five Scotties put to sleep, said it was the hardest thing she'd ever done.

The plan was that the doctor would do the surgery. If it was a foreign body, she'd remove it and close him up and call us. If it was a tumour, she'd call to confirm what we wanted to do while he was still open, and we could come down to say goodbye if we chose that route. It was a hell of a wait, but we knew the surgery was going to take about an hour, so after that we were hopeful, and thankfully, after three hours, we got a call that it was a peach pit and he was recovering really well.

Cue much relief and rejoicing, followed by, 'how are we going to recover this dog when two of us have bad backs and he can't do stairs and the house is a mess'. But one step at a time, the dog is alive, this is ideal, we are grateful. We can pick him up at 10:30PM again, unless he needed overnight care (which I won't get into, but the system was weird and made no sense, and Mum, ever the nurse, said we would just sign him out and look after him at home regardless. She nursed Shilling through a post-splenectomy, this was no sweat for her). He was good to go, though, and everyone there was very charmed by him. One of them 'rocked him like a baby' in a chair, and the vet said he tried to pull his IV out, and he was smart enough to work at it when no one was looking. He would wait until no was there, then try to pull it out. She was very amused by that. The whole staff was lovely and could not have been nicer or more communicative. As scary as it was, there was no question in our minds he was in good hands.

It wasn't a peach pit, by the way. A peach pit would have made sense. My dad eats a lot of peaches and has ADHD and is not tidy. Pax could have got one of those. But it was a chestnut. We don't have chestnut trees in our yard. We don't know how he got it. But when they showed it to us, it was not a peach pit, and when I looked it up, it was definitely a chestnut, and I actually remembered him throwing up something similar about two months ago, and not knowing what it was. There were at least three then, but one must have stayed stuck, and floated around in his stomach, intermittently blocking off the intestines, hence the weird pattern of vomiting, changing dependent on where it was in his stomach.

It's been 12 days since then, and he has been the goodest boy. He's done everything we asked, he's rested, he's behaved himself, he has been an awesome patient. We went to our own vet today for follow up and he got the all clear. He's recovered perfectly and fully healed. It could not have gone better, and I am incredibly grateful to enter my 40th year on the planet with my best boy with me.

Some other 'fun' adventures during the recovery process:
-- he bit my dad the first night we brought him home. He was still sedated and my dad tripped going down the stairs with him to help him go potty, and he nipped him by reflex. I had read that dog bites needed tetanus shots, and it wasn't a bad bite at all, but my dad is immunocompromised, so I wanted to be safe. The sheer level of frustration trying to get this shot for him. I called our GP, and everyone there kept saying 'he had his tetanus booster in 2018, it's good for ten years' while I am literally looking at the Government of Canada website saying you need a booster for fresh exposure if it's been longer than five years. At one point, the nurse said to me 'but exposure to what?' I don't know, the thing we've been talking about?! He did manage to get it, but I did not need three hours of phone tag on top of looking after my dog.
--Pax had to wear a 'surgical suit', which is a onesie, and he looked so fetching in it, and even though he hates even wearing a leash, he wore it without issue. He even understood that we had to undo it when he went out and do it up again when we brought him in, and would stand there expectantly for it.
-- He managed to figure out how to poop in the onesie without messing it up. Ever since he was a puppy, the act of pooping has been a very stressful event that cannot possibly be predicted and requires running around to get oneself revved up for it, and spinning in circles during the act. He wouldn't poop for the few days because he could not perform the appropriate rituals, and just when we thought we were going to have to take him to the vet about it, he pooped on the living room rug, through the onesie, without it getting dirty. And continued to do so throughout recovery until yesterday, when he finally hit the potty pads on the porch. What a boy.
--I threw out my back carrying him up down the stairs to go potty, and that was very unpleasant, but we did manage to get him an area to go that did not require carrying and he figured it out right quick.
--We bought a ramp that came too late, but we used it today for the first time taking him the vet for the follow up and he just did it first try no questions? Down and then up when we got home. Like, he's the best boy, really.
--The sheer decline of the Internet will never cease to amaze me. I try to avoid AI at all costs, and I wanted to know when chestnuts grow on chestnut trees and I could not find a a single website that would tell me. Not a single fucking one. It was all AI slop generated websites, the search thought I wanted to know how fast chestnut trees grow or when they first can be harvested, not looking at the words I was using in my actual search to just give me a fucking answer. I have now switched to Ecosia, which, while it does use AI, it's optional, and plants millions of trees, so at least I'm helping the environment. And the search results are actually relevant to what I ask. It feels like Old Google. Chestnuts grow between August and September, and we still don't know how Pax got them.

Despite these travails, there is much to be grateful for. We have the money to afford this, that is an immense privilege in this current economy. The chestnut didn't get stuck in his intestines, which would have been even more serious and life threatening. As much as I wish we could have figured this out sooner, whatever way I look at it, this was the only course of events that could have happened. If that mushroom hadn't been there, we might not have figured it for a lot longer. And I have learned that 1) he loves us and trusts us, and if we ask him to do something, he'll do it. 2) I have worked hard to train him and it paid off. 3) Even though I feel like 'not a real grown-up' and that I have not accomplished what I'd like to have by this age of 40 due to my myriad of health issues, I am stronger than I think I am. I did all this. I raised a good boy, I looked after him, I gave him all his medicine, I got through it, and I am capable.

Oh, and the Blue Jays have been a great distraction through all of this. Whether they win or lose, having a game to watch every night has been really lovely. I am grateful for that, too.



I certainly hope everyone out there is having an easier go of it than we have, but things are looking up here at least.

Talk to you soon!
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Hello folks! Happy Almost Mother's Day for those of you who are mothers and/or mentors of any kind.

As usual, Things have happened around here. Mr Pax has been under the weather. He was vomiting on and off for about two weeks. Every time we thought we had solved the problem, he'd start up again. Otherwise okay, cheerful and smiling and running playing, and then...vomiting. We did the bland diet, reintroduced things slowly, everything would be fine for one or two days, then bam, back to square one. He threw up a hairball (he's a very dedicated groomer and needs a haircut), and we thought maybe that was it, but no, after a day, back to square one. We took him to the vet after we ran out of ideas, and she gave him some anti-nausea pills and probiotics, and that seems to have done the trick, fingers crossed. He hasn't thrown up since we gave him the first pill, and he's about four days after the course of it and is still okay. She didn't think anything serious was happening. She said dogs can get into cycles where they vomit and irritate their stomach and then vomit because they're irritated, which irritates it further. Hopefully we're on the mend. She says if he starts again, we'll do bloodwork to look for Cushing or diabetes or liver stuff, but he seems okay now. Knock on wood.

It's been stressful, obviously. Mum and I have been on 24 hour nursing care handing off report to other another. I'm trying to get out of this burnout I'm in and be calm and indulge in self care, but sometimes you have to put that aside to look after someone else. I just want to climb out of this hole of exhaustion I'm in. I did have another breakthrough though, in that I got a pair of cheap bluetooth earbuds for myself, and I have been using music to help get through stuff my brain hates. Grocery shopping, chores, stuff like that. Giving myself dopamine while draining it to hopefully end up on an even keel. It's been helping a lot. But I am tired.

I took an online art course, just a quick five day portrait thing that was free from the YouTuber I was learning to draw from, Angel Ganev. It was super helpful, really breaking down everything into easy steps to follow. I redid my Pip portrait with his colouring method, and I'm very pleased with the results:


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I used the same sketch as the other version, and I think it's cool to have such different results from the same base. I've coloured other people's drawings for years for fun, but when I was trying to colour my own drawings, I just couldn't find a style I liked. This feels like I can build on it.

I'm still writing. I think I've solved the problem I was having where I felt like I didn't start in the right spot and didn't know how to adjust it without having to rearrange an already extremely complicated timeline. It'll still take work, but less so than if I had to start over again. And I've been reading. I got the first two Game Changers books (the ones Heated Rivalry is based on) from the library on my Kobo. I haven't seen the show, it's one of those things I see clips of on Instagram and go 'huh, that looks good, I'd probably enjoy that' and proceed to just never watch. But I enjoyed the books. The first one is okay. Very fanfictionesque, though I know it kind of sort of was Stucky fanfic to begin with (I had fun trying to guess which Marvel people all the characters were based on). The second is a marked improvement in every aspect of the storytelling. I've got the third one on hold, and am currently reading Love in Lowercase by Francesc Miralles which is cute so far. I thought it might be translated from Spanish, and just confirmed it is. It 'feels' translated, if that makes sense? Like, it's not quite written how it would be if it were in English first. Like you're getting told a story secondhand, maybe? Anyway, it's enjoyable. Kind of quiet and esoteric and thoughtful.

Hope all is well as it can be in your neck of the woods. Talk to you soon!

Moar Art!

Apr. 10th, 2026 08:50 pm
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Second completed image, done much faster now I have the colouring process down. 3 hours 33 minutes. Still improvements to be made, but I'm happy with my progress.

This is Dylan, my other lead character in my stories.



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Also, please send help, I have become a baseball fan. Mum and I really enjoyed watching the World Series last year (even though it didn't go our team's way) and decided we'd give watching the regular season a go, and now I'm watching the Blue Jays play, like, every day, and I really like it and I'm learning about baseball. Who am I? How have I gotten here? Mum says her dad was the biggest baseball fan, so it's in my blood, and I did play as a kid for quite a few years until I had to choose between that and dance, but I did not envision myself being a person who watches baseball.

The Blue Jays have had shitty luck so far with injuries and illness, and it's been kind of a mess, but it's also a little hilarious, they just keep pulling pitchers out of nowhere. I feel like at this point, it's like jury duty. At some point, at any given moment, any person in the vicinity may be called on to pitch for the Blue Jays. Be prepared. You may find yourself pitching for the Blue Jays.

Art!

Apr. 5th, 2026 08:48 am
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I've been working on trying to learn how to art lately, and I finally have a finished piece where I'm happy with it. Like, there are still areas I want/need to improve, but I feel like I achieved the best I can with this one and will take my knowledge forward in the future to do better.

This is Pip, one of my characters from the stories I've been writing.


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According to Procreate's stats, I worked on the canvas for 9 hours, 11 mins, but a huge chunk of that was me trying various colouring techniques and hating them all until I settled on this one, so I don't know how much time it would have taken me if I just went directly with this style. I'd post the time lapse, but I don't know where to host videos nowadays.

Anyway, I feel accomplished. I'm sure I'll hate this in the future, but I'm happy with it now. I find that curve is bigger in art than any other thing I've attempted, that 'Yay, I did it!' to 'this is not as good as it could be' is a constant, ongoing thing. For future me: you did good! You made a thing look like a thing! Be proud of yourself!
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Hello all! I hope Spring has sprung for you. We had a false Spring here, some beautiful weather followed by a massive snowstorm, but are back to nicer weather again. It was a loooong winter. Every time we had to leave the house felt like an Expedition.

I'm recovering from a cold. A weird one that was just in my sinuses. I thought it was allergies at first, but it was definitely a cold of some kind. Mum caught a mild version and Dad didn't get it at all, not sure why I got the brunt of it. It was unpleasant, but I'm feeling better now and it gave me an excuse to rest without feeling guilty about it. I'm just so tired all the time. It doesn't seem to matter how much I sleep, I'm still tired. I do wonder if I have some form of Chronic Fatigue syndrome. I've been chronically ill since I was 14, so it would not surprise me if somewhere along the way my body overreacted to some bug and went into CFS mode. I do think I'm doing a little better, though. I'm getting things accomplished.

I've also started meditating in the mornings. I've been trying to learn how to work with my (suspected) neurodivergent brain, and meditation kept coming up as a way to deal with that 'internal hyperactivity' feeling. Like, I want to do all the things and nothing at the same time, and my brain is jumping from topic to topic like there's a crowd of people talking in my head, all of them trying to get my attention at the same time. I've been using an app called 'Insight Timer', which is free with no ads (aside from them frequently asking if you want to upgrade to their premium service). It has a bunch of guided meditations on it, plus a timer that just plays bells or whatever in the background if you'd rather do it on your own. Not sure if it uses AI, it might with its search function, but otherwise, I've been enjoying it. It tracks your mood and keeps streak tally for you, and there is a journal option and stuff. I've been finding it useful and I've been sleeping really well since I started doing it.

I've also made a drawing breakthrough. I've been following a series of lessons from a guy named Angel Ganev on youtube. His style might not be for everyone, he's a Gen Z fellow from Bulgaria and his humour falls into the edgy/grumpy territory of constant insults and dick jokes, but the fundamentals have been really helpful. How he breaks it down makes a lot of sense and I've seen progress in my sketches following his method. Shading is next, and that's proving difficult, but I keep reminding myself sketching was hard, too, and I have to learn this part of things now.

Otherwise, I've been writing and chilling. I've somehow wound up on the 'Bridgerton fandom drama' algorithm on Instagram. I don't watch the show (I don't have Netflix) but I have read some of the books, and I like watching clips that pop up on my feed, and now suddenly I am flooded with people complaining about other people complaining about the new leads for season five, without actually seeing anybody complain about the new leads for season five. Instagram is funny in that way. It's like walking by your neighbours having argument. I get a lot of Deaf community stuff, too, and it's hilarious how one post will be like 'I don't understand why people think they can't approach us to have a conversation, we're not snobby or unpleasant or insular' followed immediately by 'don't you ever tap my shoulder to get my attention, I don't care what your ASL teacher told you, I do NOT want you to touching me!'. And 'everyone should learn ASL, we love it when you try' followed by 'only X people can teach ASL and everyone else sucks and here all the things you're doing that are incredibly offensive and you should never even try to assume you can be welcomed into the community'. And, like, I get both sides of that, it's perfectly normal for there to be a variety of opinions and experiences, but it's just whiplash to go from one extreme to the next. Thus is the Internet, I suppose. I try to stay in my happy places.

Hope everyone is managing well and finding their happy places! Talk to you soon!
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For theatre enjoyers out there who may not be aware, the National Theatre's production of The Importance of Being Earnest starring Ncuti Gatwa is up for free on youtube until March 18th. It's a filmed version of the live performance, and Mum and I watched Act I last night and I can confirm it is very silly and enjoyable. It does not seem to be region locked, but I cannot swear to that, only that I could watch it fine in Canada.

You can watch it HERE. There's a standard version, an audio described one, and BSL interpreted one.
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Hello, all! Happy Olympics to all who celebrate. I hope, if it is something you enjoy, you can use it to have a little break from...*gestures vaguely at everything*

I'm going to divide this entry up into three parts: health, writing, drawing.

Health

Once again I have angered the Tooth Fairy. On Christmas Eve, I was eating a cookie and it had a piece of candy cane stuck to it from another dessert nearby, which I did not notice, and I bit it. It seemed fine at the time, but by the next day, I had some pain in that tooth. Sometimes my shoulders refer into my teeth, and I'd been carrying stuff, and lifting Pax, and crocheting. and I'd helped Mum up off a low chair at my brother and SIL's house, and I thought that maybe I'd hurt it. And it was Christmas, so the dentist was closed anyway. But everything on my left side just really hurt like hell, so I called on the first Monday they were open. I had a fractured filling which he repaired, and we thought that was it, but it was okayish for about a week, then everything erupted again. I am notoriously paranoid about my teeth, so I always doubt if there's a problem or if I'm just being 'sensitive' and I was like 'no, they fixed it, you're being silly', but I finally went in yesterday after a month's worth of pain to check it, and the dentist thinks I have at least an infection if not also a cracked tooth. The tooth already has a root canal, so we're doing antibiotics and hoping that will settle it. If not it will need to be pulled. My third extraction in three years. I try so hard with oral hygiene, but I grind like hell and my molars are feeling it with all the stress we've had over the last few years. I do everything to not grind, but my brain wants to grind and I can't control when I am asleep, and the mouthguard can only do so much. I'm glad at least to have the antibiotics and hopefully help some of the pain. I am a-weary, though.


Writing

I have distracting myself with the adventures of my OCs. I'm trying to go back now and fill in the story, sort out the timeline, which is hard when there is time travel involved. I wish I'd started differently and now to change it, everything else has to shift and move around, so I'm trying to see what I can salvage. It was just meant to be a sort of short story, but then these idiots had to go and be adorable and make me want to write about them ad infinitum. I have a Pinterest board and a freaking family tree for one of them, and it's just...stupid brain hyperfixating. I am having lots of fun, though. I've been trying to improve my prose. I feel like my dialogue is good, and I like to write dialogue, but the in between bits need work and I have trouble with that. In fanfic that isn't as important, I guess, because people know what the setting and characters look like, so you don't need to describe them as much. In original fiction, I have to establish it. I read all these books with beautiful descriptions that flow and sound great and get inspired and sit down to write and it's like 'there is a tree, it is tall and green and has a squirrel in it'. One of my characters narrates pretty well, the other one's voice is a little more matter of fact and he fights me on it. Probably will improve with practice? I hope?


Drawing

I'm still on my drawing kick. Trying to learn to draw faces. I originally started with the grid method which worked, but is kind of like a 'paint by numbers' method, where you can copy a reference well but doesn't teach you to abstract into other poses if you don't have the exact photo or like the pose but want to change the face. So, I've been messing around, watching a lot of tutorials and alternately feeling I'm improving and then hating what I draw. I feel like my faces look like people now, but not necessarily the people I'm aiming to draw. And I'm, of course, trying to draw my characters, so I am now intimately acquainted with the features of my Face Casts for them. Which makes me notice things like that Ben Whishaw has a slightly lazy eye (kind of funny, given I gave Q amblyopia back in the day), and Matt Bomer has a short nose area and/or large forehead area. Also eyes and mouths are hard, just in general. And fuck side profiles.


Anyway, things are otherwise copacetic. We've had a ton of snow, which is not fun with us three invalids around. Getting anywhere feels like I'm preparing to go to Mordor. Pax is loving it though, he's a winter boy, and he's a very good boy who has been so well-behaved while I haven't felt well, letting me rest and being happy and his best self. I've also been doing a bunch of quizzes on Sporcle to keep myself busy. I like memorizing things, so I've been on a kick of trying to learn as many Marvel superheroes as possible and beating my score each time. It's fun, I swear.

Hang in there, enjoy your Olympics, and we'll make it through! Talk to you soon!
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Merry Christmas! I hope you had/are having a joyous one if you celebrate, and if you celebrate another holiday around this time of year, I hope that one was/will be lovely, too, and if you celebrate nothing, I hope you are enjoying some chill vibes.

We did our Christmas last night, as is traditional in the Bard family. Last year, on the 23rd, my mom fell and my brother's cat went into diabetic shock, so we were grateful this year both human and animal were well. Though, it's been a rough go. My dad is still in recovery mode. Mum and I both had horrible reactions to our flu/COVID boosters. Mum fainted getting out of bed and was so weak (fever of nearly 39c/102f) she needed help getting up off the floor. Thankfully, she did not further hurt herself. I had the worst rigors I've had since I was a child. My teeth were chattering so bad, I had to put my mouth guard in because I was afraid of my fillings getting damaged. Both of us were out for five or six days afterwards. Dad was fine, oddly. Usually he's the one who gets the high fever and starts getting weird. No reaction at all for him this time but a sore arm.

Such shenanigans put us beyond on our Christmas readying, so we ended up going to my brother and SIL's place instead of them coming here. It was still lovely and we had a wonderful time. I did some awesome Christmas baking this year. The best I think I've ever achieved. We also went to my SIL's family Christmas gathering earlier this month, which is always a good time. I think it's sweet they include us.

This past year has been one of discovery for me. I don't have any formal diagnosis of neurodivergence, and don't plan to pursue one because I don't think it will be worth what I have to put myself through to get one, but operating under the assumption of AuDHD makes sense to me, and I'm still figuring how to navigate that. I understand why I struggle with certain things, but I'm still working on what to do with that information. It's been a kind of stages of grief thing. It's weird at almost 40 to find out that you've been running on one leg when most people have two. It explains why you're sometimes slower, but at the time, you also understand you'll always be slower. In the long run, I think I'll be happier. I already am, being able to unmask and recognize when I feel overstimulated and need to take a breath. I'm proud of myself for coping all these years before I understood my brain is wired differently, but I'm exhausted now I'm letting myself not cope. There's a period of time of just needing to let myself feel what I feel and not hide from it. I'm hoping to go into 2026 with a better sense of me.

And I've been writing so much! I wrote a whole ten chapter...I don't know if it's a fic if it's your own original characters and world, but story, I guess. It's useless right now, because it's so far into the future of the narrative that if I ever do post things, I need to write so much before it make it make sense, but I'm going back now with all the knowledge of the characters and who they are to help me fill in those spots better. It's been a lot of fun, and even if it's just for me in the end, it's a good time.

Anyway, as always, it's been lovely to have you folks around. I hope I get to keep talking to you in the new year. I'm going to try to do better about reading other people's entries. I got out of the habit when LJ died down.

Have a safe and prosperous New Year and I'll talk to you soon!
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Hey, if anyone ever needs another reason to support your local PBS station, I wrote to mine about a scheduling issue that caused my DVR to cut off the last 30 minutes of Twefth Night on Friday (not sure which end was the issue, but it only gave it a 90 minute slot instead of two hours) and the person there told me I can't watch it on Passport because of rights issues (one of the few downsides to living in Canada), so they put a rerun on the schedule for me to watch on Dec 4th. They apologized they could only do it at 4AM. Like, dude, you have rescheduled TV for me, I'm not complaining about when you do it.

So, that's awesome and very kind, and my little heart is very chuffed by it. By the way, it's a very enjoyable production and I highly recommend. I like a lot of what they did with the staging and characters, and the performers nailed it.

Anyway, support PBS!
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Hello, folks! Happy Halloween! Happy very belated Canadian Thanksgiving! Happy very early American Thanksgiving!

Things here are stable. Dad has avoided having to have part of his gouty toe amputated, which was a possibility at one pint. He's doing much better, finally, and we're grateful, because it is hard to look after a patient with ADHD. Mum and I were both kind of at our wit's end. Mum is exhausted from it and is also dealing with a shoulder injury. She's getting physio for it, but it's slow going.

I'm dealing with...something. Maybe hormones? Maybe adjusting to my newfound suspicion of neurodivergence? I feel like I'm just overwhelmed a lot. Not like in a depressed way, more like a 'I am furious right now and I have no good reason for it' kind of way. I think it's a stage of recovery, where I'm better enough to be better and not better enough to be well, so I'm in the 'I want to but can't' phase of things, which is frustrating. I'm at war with my body and brain and coming to terms with the fact that neither of them are going ever be what I want them to be. I have to learn to work with what I've got and that's a journey.

On the bright side, there are things that are good. Pax turned 7 years old on September 24th. He's a senior dog now! My little baby boy is a senior dog. We had a nice Thanksgiving with my brother and SIL. The World Series is happening and no one in my house has ever cared about that before, but we are glued to it, because Go Blue Jays! Kick America's ass! I am crocheting for Christmas and everything is looking gorgeous. I had the rare experience of choosing a pattern, picking out yarn, and liking both once started. Normally, I have to change patterns multiple times because I hate everything I make once I start, but this one is total smooth sailing.

I am also still writing. Being me, I have been working on a multi-chapter epic tale set five years in the future for when I introduce these characters and haven't written anything in between that. But in some ways it's good, because I'm learning a lot about the characters that I can then sprinkle in to earlier stories so it doesn't come out of nowhere. Also, somehow, it turns out the vague sciency explanations I came up with for mechanisms of this world is actually accidentally plausible. I don't know how, but both my biology and quantum physics nonsense are technically possible. So, yay me.

Wish me luck, though, because I have to now deep dive in quantum physics to try to at least bullshit an explanation in universe, and it's...hard. I liked it better when my Google searches were all 'when was x invented' and not 'what is quantum entanglement?' 'what is the definition of time?' 'what is string theory?'. Let me go back to just finding out if my immortal dude from 125 years ago knows what a party hat is. I liked that better.

Hope everyone else is doing well and enjoying what festivities they engage in. Talk to you soon!

Book Talk

Sep. 11th, 2025 01:20 pm
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I've mentioned I've been reading like a mad thing this year, and I started logging on goodreads to keep track of what I've read so I can feel accomplished about it. I thought I'd share my favourites so far in case anyone else is looking for a book they might enjoy.

Head's up: most of what I've read this year is romance novels. They're easy on my brain and make me happy. I'll tag the level of spiciness in the reviews so you can read at your comfort level. I'll also put content warnings under spoiler tags so you can see them if you need/want and avoid them if you don't!

So much kissing )


That's all for now! Book recs welcome if you them. I love anything light-hearted and romance-ish, especially historical stuff.

Tis I!

Aug. 23rd, 2025 08:43 am
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Hello! Long time no see. I am sad to say this is not for good reasons, but mostly because things have remained, as always, a bit stressful around here. A short summary:

--My dad's gout turned into osteomyelitis and a broken toe. He's been on antibiotics for nearly two months now, including two weeks of IV antibiotics. His toe is looking almost normal now, and he has an appointment with the rheumatologist in the fall, but he's been in a lot of pain and is exhausted. And is a rather pathetic, uncooperative patient. We've finally gotten the message through that he needs to just rest and recover, but there was a time where it was like herding cats.
--I broke one of my teeth way back in April and had to wait until July to get it extracted due to the waiting list at the oral surgeon. That was with me listed as 'urgent' on the referral. The pain wasn't terrible unless I ate something with A Temperature and I managed it with clove oil during the wait well enough (10/10 recommend clove oil for tooth pain), but it was a heck of long time coming to get it out. The oral surgeon is super nice and got me perfectly numb, but he had to wiggle the tooth out and my teeth are super close together (my old dentist once said I have my dad's teeth in my mum's mouth), and he knocked out the fillings in the tooth behind it. Including one I had had done three days earlier. I was left with about a quarter of a tooth left, the rest broken off near the gum line. Thankfully, it doesn't hurt and my dentist says we don't have to do anything about it unless it starts to act up. I've been having some numbness and twitching on that side of my face I was worried was coming from there, but I went on Thursday and he smoothed out and trimmed up what was left so I wasn't biting on it, and he thinks it's just left over pathology from having the broken, infected tooth in there for so long. It is getting better, and I haven't ruled out it being a neck or shoulder thing. I grind my teeth pretty hardcore (hence the broken teeth, even with a mouthguard), so I have a lot of tension in that area.
--It's been Migraine Season from all the pressure shifts and I'm in a continuous prodome-aura-headache cycle that kind of sucks. Pain is never my problem, I am lucky that I rarely get an actual headache, but I get weird as fuck and it's not fun.
--Mum's shoulder has been acting up again and her physio has been away, so she's struggling a little.

So, that's been what's up, in addition to all the wonderful world problems we are all dealing with to varying degrees.

However, not at all is bleak! Here is a short summary of good things:
--I am still reading like a mad thing. I have made my way through all the romance novels I downloaded to my Kindle, or near about. Some of them I had to abandon because they were...not good, but most I at least enjoyed and a few I loved, and since they were all free, I will not complain. I may do a post about books I've enjoyed lately. I started a goodreads account to track my reading progress this year, and so far I'm clocked in at 30 books, which is not too shabby.
--I am also writing non-stop. I cannot stop. I have made a pair of characters and I like them so much, I am ocean-deep into their stories, and I get to do all sorts of fun research and it's been very cool. I'm so used to writing fan fiction, I keep feeling guilty I'm delving so deep into OCs and then I remember that I am writing original fiction and I am allowed to do that! It's so much fun! I have no idea what I will do with all these stories I have. I might start posting them eventually, but I'm still refining the first story as I write more and learn more about the characters and the timeline (it involves time travel, so the timeline is very whack). The internet is also a far scarier place than when I used to post stories, so I'm a bit nervous about sharing. I know everyone here is lovely, but the outside world can be scary.
--We have been continuing our decluttering and organizing process when health permits and I am pleased with what I've accomplished.
--My drawing has improved a lot, though I do keep hitting those plateaus where I'm better enough to know I need to be better and have to push through to improve, and get frustrated sometimes.
--I've been approved for the government dental insurance. It doesn't cover everything, but it will certainly help a lot.

I hope everyone is managing to find some joy where they can. I'm looking forward to cooler weather. I'm not a hot-weather girl.

Talk to you soon!
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Hello, world, 'tis I. Another year older and therefore infinitely wiser than the last time we spoke. I started this journal when I was 21, and now I am 39, and man, that is a a heck of a long run. Especially since I've known some of you pretty much that whole time!

We have had another Bard Family Calamity (tm) here. My dad had an acute gout attack a couple of weeks ago, and it was gnarly. He's had a bump on his toe for months and we've politely suggested he get it looked at, and to be fair, he did show a nurse who thought it was gout, but he didn't hear anything back about the blood test for it, so he assumed it wasn't gout. Until one morning, he woke up in excruciating pain, with his toe extremely swollen and red streaking up his foot. He got some antibiotics from the walk-in clinic for it, but if my dad has even the slightest fever, he loses his goddamned mind. He's up, he's down, he over here, he's over there, he won't rest, he won't listen, he won't take pain medicine, he's ADHDing all over the place and you cannot stop him. We had to literally drug him to get him to lie down. Thankfully, most of the acute phase is done now and today he's going to see the doctor to find out what he has to do, but dear God, it has been a trial.

Other than that, things haven't been not too bad. I've been reading like a mad thing, and also writing like a mad thing. I think the two are correlated. I think you need to read to able to write, and I just couldn't get my brain to read for awhile. Last year, or a couple of years ago, there was a link on tumblr to a bunch of free romance novels (I think they do it twice a year where a bunch of authors put one of the novels on sale for free, but that was the first and only time I saw it) and I got a bunch for Kindle, but I'd never really gotten around to reading them, so I'm working my way through them now that my Dad gave him his old Kindle to use. I also wrote a story! A short original story, based on a prompt I saw on Pinterest about a time traveller and an immortal being friends. I may post it once I let it marinate, because I quite like the characters, and I have more ideas for adventures for them. I'm proud of myself, since I really hated the first version that I wrote and I was able to do proper editing and make it into something I liked instead of giving up on it. I'm in that muddy phase of skill learning where I'm past 'wee, this is fun! I love to do this!' into 'I am not as good as I want to be at this skill, therefore I am terrible at this skill and should stop'. I know enough to know I don't know enough, and it's frustrating.

Anyway, I hope you all are living the best you can in these continued WTF times we live in, and finding some joy where you can.
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Hello there! Oof, it's been awhile since I posted last here. It's been kind of a series of unfortunate events the last couple of months and I've been just trying get through. Migraine season was very long, plus I had a string of small but annoying kidney stones, and Mum and I had colds, and I've broken another tooth which I'm waiting to have pulled, and Dad also had broken, infected teeth, and it turns out when Mum fell at Christmas she broke another vertebra in her back to go along with the three that were already broken which we only found out a couple of weeks ago and she's got a slightly frozen shoulder as well, and my SIL is on stress leave from her job and...there's a lot. It's just a lot.

Thankfully, the election we had up here went the way I personally was hoping for, and, even amongst all the woes, we've been working decluttering and organizing and cleaning the house. We've been watching 'Sort Your Life Out' on CBC Gem, and it's been quite inspiring.

In the midst of my decluttering, I also decided to a journal declutter of sorts. This journal has turned into a personal one since I lost my ability to write, and I decided to make a writing journal to split the two off. [personal profile] awanderingbardtales is a mirror of this journal, but I went through and deleted all the personal entries so there's only writing and writing related posts. To be clear, everything that was posted on this journal is still here, but going forward, should I manage to write again, I'll post the stories there and keep this one for personal stuff. I have been working on original stuff and maybe one day I'll have something I want to share. I got a new writing app for my iPad that functions like Notepad on Windows used to, which is where I did all my writing before the Great Flash Drive Crash of '15, and I feel like I'm better able to organize my thoughts on a simpler interface than Google Docs, where I get distracted all the time by the grammar and spell checks and get into my head about it. Feel free to follow the writing journal if you wish. I'll also post links from here to there if there's anything new. I'm going to probably try to make some master posts of my stories, too. And it's been fun to go through and read stuff over the last almost 20(!) years of my life that this journal as existed (at least on LJ, the DW version is newer).

I'm also continuing my art journey. I'm trying to learn to draw bodies now and practicing gesture drawing, and it's progressing. Not fast, but it's going. I've done some crocheting, and managed to keep up my reading. Still very light-hearted stuff to keep my brain happy. I feel like learning about my neurodivergence has been helpful and I'm finding better ways to cope and get things accomplished. The Loop earplugs have really been a life saver in so many aspects. I feel like I'm even more confident and decisive because I'm less overwhelmed all the time.

I hope everyone else is coping with life and finding some joy in it.

Triumphs

Mar. 9th, 2025 02:46 pm
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Hello there! The world continues to be a frustrating and baffling place, but I am trying to focus on making my own small part of it better, and I have had some triumphs lately, so I documenting them for posterity.

I've been on a voyage of self-discovery re: neurodivergence, and the more I read, the more it seems likely I am not neurotypical. My childhood psychiatrist labelled me as a 'highly sensitive person', which from what I've read, is now considered to be basically 'girl autism' or 'autism without social impairment', and that does seem to fit. I'm still deciding if I want to pursue a formal diagnosis, which will likely be a very long process given the state of Ontario healthcare, but in the meantime, I've been trying to see if I can help myself out some.

The first thing I have done is get some Loop earplugs. I am and have always been very easily overwhelmed in noisy environments, even as a baby, according to my mum. My dad has severe hearing loss and won't wear his hearing aids (likely due to undiagnosed ADHD-related reasons), so the house has gotten kind of noisy with the volume at which he watches television and I didn't realize that neurotypical people can filter out background noise, but I cannot. I decided to invest in a pair of Loop earplugs, which I had read good things about being able to dampen noise while still allowing you to have a conversation with someone, and I cannot tell you the difference these have made in my life. This is not an advertisement; these things are expensive, probably far more than they need to be, but everyone in Ontario got $200 from the government last month because of some budget surplus thing, and so I decided to use some of the unexpected money to splurge. I wear them from about 5PM to 7PM every night, when the house is at its noisiest and most chaotic, and I did not realize how, like fight or flight I had been. I can do things during that time now without being grumpy or agitated. I have more executive function because I'm not overwhelmed by noise. I'm less tired because I'm not using all my spoons trying not to be agitated. They've also really helped going grocery shopping, which is another sensorially heavy activity. I can do that and not be exhausted for the rest of the day. 10/10 recommend if you have similar issues and can afford the price tag. I got the Engage 2 Plus, and they do the job really well.

With my new found executive function, I've been embarking upon trying to organize the chaos of the household which has evolved from mum being unwell for the last decade and not able to Supermum her way through life and hold the gate against the onslaught of her family of (also chronically ill) wildfae running rampant about the place. I've working on organization and systems that make it easy for things to have places and those places to be found without having to engage in too much execution function, and it is going well. Our front hall looks about 80% better, and it's not a lot, but it's a start.

And finally, I have been able to read again, which I haven't done in years. I just did not have the spoons to engage in a narrative, but I've been reading some light romance novels lately and really enjoying them. Ali Hazelwood's books are super fun (but a little spicy on the sex scenes, very fanfiction-esque, so be warned if that's not your jam) and I've also started reading the Lovelight Farms series by BK Borisson, which are super cute, though again, somewhat spicy in the sex scenes. I also tried to read a Pride and Prejudice fanfiction novel I found at a thrift store, but I have never read anything that read more like fanfiction and had to stop. No one needs to be having as much sex as Darcy and Elizabeth are having in this book. It's too bad, since the premise is good and she did a great job with developing the minor characters in the books and brought in interesting OCS and clearly did a lot of research about the time period, but 90% of this book is just the Darcys having sex and talking about how much they love each other and even I, with my years of fanfiction experience, could not sustain that for chapters on end.

So that's that! I hope you all are managing in this very stupid world we live in, and are trying to find some execution function for yourselves. I wish you well in your endeavours.

A Question

Feb. 18th, 2025 01:34 pm
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Yesterday was Family Day here in Ontario, and my brother and his wife took my parents and I out for dinner, during which we had a discussion about reading, and now I need to know something:

When you read, do you hear a voice in your head reading the words to you?

My SIL and I do, my mum, dad, and brother don't.

Now, my brother and mum both have varying degrees of aphantasia as well (inability to picture things in their mind). Not sure about my dad, but my SIL can picture things in her mind, so I don't know if that's related.

I did Google this, and found out it's something called 'subvocalization', and for people who do hear the voice, their larynxes actually make micro movements like they're speaking, though not producing any actual sound. If you can turn off the voice, you can also apparently read faster, which I believe, since my mum sails through books. I couldn't find out if it's 'normal' to hear the voice or not, though, or if it's just typical human variation, so I'm curious about other people's experiences.

I'm also curious to know if you don't hear a voice, how does the information get into your head? Like, how are the words getting to your brain if you aren't...putting them here with your head voice? My brother just shrugged when I asked, and my mum's description was essentially she sort of absorbs vibes of emotion from the character situations or something.

Anyway, if you feel like sharing with the class, let me know, because I am very intrigued.
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Well, hello there! I was mistaken in my reckoning and thought I still had another day left in January to post, but oops, it's February. I blame the vague migraine I've had for literally a week now, just nebulously sitting there making my brain foggy and my balance shitty but not really declaring itself. I have an app that notifies me of pressure shifts, since my migraines are mostly weather related, and it's been going off several times a day all week with shifts that are three or four times the lowest threshold, so it's no wonder I feel weird. Polar vortex for the suck, I guess.

There's not much to report around here. I've been trying to get my iron and B12 up, but I'm incredibly exhausted still. Post-Christmas slump is probably at play as well. January is always hard because of that. Getting ready for Christmas uses a lot of spoons even when you're not chronically ill, and when you are, you end up in a kind of spoon deficit. I'm doing my best to chill and relax and not pay too much attention to the news. I gave up doomscrolling late last year and it has done wonders for my mood, I highly recommend. I stick to tumblr and Instagram, both of which are carefully curated to be uplifting and not depressing. I've also been reading again, which is good. There was so long where I didn't have it in me to put my brain to that use, and I'm glad I'm back in a place where I have space in my noodle to keep a plot and characters straight, even if it's just silly romance stuff.

In other good news, my brother has been in the last two weeks: given an excellence award at work, given a raise, and then given a promotion and another raise. He had a tough year last year and it's nice to see this one is starting off better for him.

I hope everyone is coping as best they can and finding some joy for themselves. Talk to you soon!
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Well, it's almost New Year's Eve, which means it's almost 2025 and time for my December update. I did manage to keep my resolution of posting at least once a month this year, so huzzah!

I hope everyone enjoyed/is enjoying their winter holiday celebrations or chilling if they do not have such celebrations. Ours were slightly delayed by circumstances, but we did get around to it on Boxing Day. We usually celebrate on Christmas Eve, but on the 23rd, my mum fell on the ceramic tile at the front door because her wet shoes made her feet go out from under her. She was fine, nothing broken or anything, but literally a few minutes after that happened, I got a text from my brother that Jack, his elder cat, had gone into diabetic shock on the 22nd and had been having seizures on and off. So we decided to postpone until everything calmed down and I am happy to report Jack is doing okay and Mum is extremely sore, but not severely damaged. We went to my brother's on the 26th and had a lovely time despite our woes, and met my brother and his wife's new cat, Jake, who is a 13-year-old rescue they adopted after they very unexpectedly lost their younger cat over the summer. He's a sweet boy and slept on my mum's lap the whole night, and Jack slept in a box in the living room with his face hidden, which was very social for him. He usually hides upstairs when there's company. He seems to be doing much better now.

I am exhausted, which is not unusual post Christmas. I also recently discovered I am slightly anaemic and have low B12, which may explain why I've been feeling yucky lately. I'm looking forward to resting now that the Christmas bustle is done. We had so many appointments through the autumn, and this year in general has just been a lot of stuff happening. I feel like I've learned a lot about myself as a person, but the existential crisis of it all is kind of tiring. I'm going into 2025 with a mindset of focussing on self-care and avoiding doomscrolling and finding joy in the things and people I love and letting what I can't change go.

I wish you all the best of New Year's and I will talk to you in January!

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